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THE SUMMER DENIM
I love me a pair of jeans that look a bit worn out. Yes, I’m that annoying guy that buys vintage looking stuff when you may be able to find it at a local second hand shop - but who has the time to search and search and to wait for the planets to align so that one can score a pair of perfect worn out jeans that are their exact size????? Not me!
These 511 Levis fit snug, are a bit stretchy and have a great washed out look. For $78 bucks, they are a bit pricey but oh well, every now and then one must drop a few extra bucks for a good pair of jeans.
I’m definitely looking forward to rockin’ these during those summer days with a loose V-Neck and a pair of dirty Converse. Yep, dirty.
Yes my fellow single men, we need to make sure our beds are up to par. This means white sheets, Egyptian cotton and high thread cotton when possible! Yes, there are fancier sheet sets and if you have the wallet for them, then go for it!
If you’re not good with color coordination, stick with the classic white sheets. Trust me, a woman will always feel sexier in clean, soft feeling sheets.
I also recommend having more than one set cause you never know when a beautiful lady may be making her way to your spot. Trust me, you won’t have enough time to wash those crusty sheets that have been gracing your bed for the last 3 weeks and I’m being nice here cause I’m sure some men go longer.
Finally, you can score great deals on sheets at TJ MAXX, Marshall’s, Tuesday Afternoon, and lastly Ross (I avoid this place whenever possible).
Next time we tackle the mattress and frame cause these things matter too!
WORKING FROM HOME ATTIRE
I’m not usually a fan of sweatpants but I must admit that the new, modern versions are growing on me. They’re comfy, look pretty cool and are reasonably priced at only $24.95 (H&M)! Now I may make a run to the local market with these bad boys BUT you still won’t catch me downtown with these on cause I just feel like they are more appropriate for around the house or for quick errands and that’s pretty much it!
Snobby, maybe but that’s me.
REBEL AGAINST YOURSELF
Why stick to one genre of dressing? It’s always nice to venture out even if it’s just mixing and matching a single item.
We all have a little rocker or prep or hipster or hip hop head in us! I don’t see anything wrong with embracing that side of ourselves every now and then.
For example, I was perusing Urban Outfitters the other day (not really my place of choice to shop at but I do peruse it every now and then) and I came across the kicks located directly above. Why I liked them? They were only 40 bucks and I really dug the dark brown leather. Yes, the spikes are not necessarily something that I would rock but why not try something a little different.
In the end, it never hurts to mix things up and rebel against your norm.
The Retro Casios | Cheap Wrist-wear #casio #retro #mensfashion #watch #gold #silver #fashion #style #asingleman (at East Bay)
I loved that when I first purchased the ghetto gold watch on the left, it costed no more than $25 on Amazon…now it’s more than $45! That’s what happens when things become popular or trendy.
I had temporarily misplaced my gold watch, so I picked up the silver watch for less than $20, also on Amazon.
These are simple watches obviously but that’s what I love about them, they look cool and when I look down, I’m reminded of the days when things were so much simpler. Good times…good times.
I recently came across a person that was going through a breakup and suffering. They had been in contact with their ex just recently and were dwelling on the failure of the relationship. I advised this person to avoid all contact. Delete the exes number, don’t answer unknown numbers, block them on Facebook, etc.
I’ve gone through breakups and I’ll be the first to admit that I have made my share of mistakes but through each experience, I get better at handling them. That’s why I’ve come up with a few simple guidelines to ease the pain and hopefully get over the breakup just a little bit faster.
1. No Contact
Don’t text each other, don’t talk on the phone, don’t see each other weeks after breaking up, don’t booty call each other, etc. Zero contact is mandatory! Seeing each other shortly after the break can only cause you to play the makeup to breakup game. It’s a waste of time and it’s never healthy for either party.
2. Avoid Social Networks
If you’re two are friends on Facebook, block them!!! If you’re following them on Twitter, stop following!!! If you follow each others Instagram feed, eliminate them immediately!!! If you’re friends on Yelp, remove them!!!
It never helps to see what the other person is doing after the breakup. Do you really want to know that he or she is out partying or on dates or drinking themselves to death? Once again, zero contact!!!
3. Avoid Drinking
Unless you can control your drinking really well, the last thing you want to do is drink excessively. Alcohol is a downer and it only exasperates the emotions. My advice, stay sober until you’re completely over the relationship and in the worst case scenario, hand off your phone to a friend and DO NOT make any attempt to get it back because bad things happen when one is really inebriated with phone in hand and suffering through a breakup.
4. Don’t Be Alone
Now this may not apply to all cause some people are ok with being alone but it’s a good idea to surround yourself with friends. I also don’t suggest sleeping around cause even though it is a great way to get your mind off things, it’s just a temporary solution. Recover in a healthy manner so that you completely rid yourself of all of the emotions you had for that person. Masking the pain is never a good idea. The best thing to do is to get over them on your own so that in a few months, you’re completely healed.
AND DO NOT GET INTO ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY! This may be the worst thing that anyone can do.
5. Don’t Dwell
This rule applies to those of you that know the relationship is no good. All circumstances are different, so some of you may find a need to reflect but the last thing you want to do over-analyze it. If it’s over, don’t dwell on it - start living your life and move on. The more you sit there and think about it, the more you prolong the pain.
6. Don’t Wish the Other Misery
This is just a waste of energy. It’s natural to wish them misfortune but in the end, you should never act on it. Don’t post nude pictures of the other, don’t spread rumors, don’t spy and sabotage them, don’t bad mouth your ex, etc. There are a million crazy things that you can do but the best thing is to wish them well or forget about them completely and move forward!
We are all different, so that means that we each handle things in our own crazy way but based on my experiences, these guidelines have helped me recover from breakups in a rather fast and healthy manner.
Losing someone you love hurts. It’s never easy to say goodbye and to forget all of the promises you had made to each other. The future you thought you would have is changed forever. It can be scary and it’s definitely saddening but keep in mind, things will get better.
Some men say that they only pick up on women at bars, clubs, etc. and that the virtual avenues are not to their liking or just not cool. To them I say, you are missing out my friend!
Let’s face it, times are a changin’ and technology is leading the way on how men meet women and vice versa. New studies are showing that relationships that begin online are more likely to succeed than those that meet in the old school kind of way, i.e. bar, dance club, work, etc.
Now some of you men may not be looking for love and that is fine - there are plenty of women on these sites that are interested in just having fun. My advice, be upfront about what you want so that she can decide whether or not she’d like to proceed with you. I may have done my share of shady things but I never tell a woman that we may have a future together just to score. In this day and age, women are ok with admitting that they too like sex - a man just needs to be smooth on his approach. Do not expect her to give it up without playing hard to get! Now that wouldn’t be very lady like, would it???
Lastly, do not just go on these sites and open up with shit like - Hey baby, you’re hot or damn that’s a nice ass or you’re so fine or I would like to do nasty things to you!!! Men remember that women need to be woo’d. Yes these very lame and lazy lines may work for a select few but the majority will just pass on you. Also remember to post a good pic of yourself and a recent one, try actually engaging women with stuff like - Wow, you’re gorgeous. Now how does a man get your attention? or I just read through your profile & I would really like to know more about you or my goodness, you are the most striking woman on this site! Some of this stuff may sound cheesy but you’ll at least stick out from the barrage of horny lazy men that make zero effort to charm a woman. Remember that a little effort goes a long way guys.
Sites or apps I like:
- Skout (Free - iPhone & Android App)
- www.Match.com (Monthly Subscription - Web site & App)
- Badoo (Free sort of - iPhone App)
- OkCupid (Free Web site and App)